I still get sick to my stomach remembering this event. I was so broken after my divorce and desperately needed inner healing from emotional and spiritual wounding. A friend recommended I go to a Christian healing center in town to be prayed over. It sounded wonderful. Just what I was looking for. Me being a pastor's daughter inclined me not to share my most vulnerable wounds in my small local church. (Only other PK's may understand that dilemma!) Going to a place where everyone DIDN'T know my name, where I could let my guard down and be raw....sign me up!
Unfortunately, it was anything but a blessing. I gave a brief description of what I had been through, where I was currently, and why I was there. And then it happened. They asked how I identified myself in the Lord to which I replied with much delight, "I am a daughter of the Most High King!" That is when these women told me I was still operating like a child and needed to be standing in my authority as a Woman of God!
I was stunned. Frozen. Unable to speak.
Then they proceeded to tell me several other things I was doing wrong post divorce. Each of which were specific things the Lord had asked me to do!
It took me two days before I could speak to anyone about what had happened. My counselor, my best friend, and my parents were furious when they finally found out what happened and it took me months to recover what these women and the enemy tried to steal.
First, I leaned into the Lord and into His word...
Matthew 18:1-4 At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, "Who, then, is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?" He called a little child to him and placed the child among them. And he said: "Truly I tell you unless you change and become like little children you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me."
Jesus straight up told grown men that they needed to humbly position themselves as children! That's red letter ya'll. He did not say they needed to be childish! There is a big difference between being childish in our behavior and child-like in our faith. (That could be a post all by itself!)
Galatians 3:26 "So in Christ Jesus you are all children of God through faith."
Paul said we are all CHILDREN of God!
2 Corinthians 6:18 "I will be a Father to you and you will be my sons and daughters," says the Lord Almighty.
I am a daughter of the Lord Almighty!
These are just a few of the verses that depict those of us who believe in God as sons and daughters. Therefore, I will continue to boast in my lowly position as daughter first and foremost because I know my heavenly Father. I have experienced His love, His compassion for me, and His parenting. I love being His child. And because that is my identity, I have great confidence as a woman walking around on planet earth today.
Then I leaned in for the lesson that this incident taught me...
1. Sometimes well meaning people, will speak from their own wounding or experience. They really think they are giving you the best advice but they don't know you're story and what God has called you to do. Forgive them. Then do what God has called you to do.
2. Be careful to listen first before giving advice and when you do offer advice or prayer you might want to add: First and foremost...follow God. I want to help and not hurt. If my advice is wrong, let it fall to the threshing floor and blow away. Forgive me.
3. Keep a few, safe, trustworthy friends by your side so that if an incident like this happens they can speak truth over you. I needed help discerning truth from lie because these well meaning ladies made me question whether or not I was hearing God accurately. That's a terrible place to be. But the truth tellers in my life, the few who knew how passionately I was pursuing God, who knew my story, were able to speak truth over me. They helped me get up and keep doing what God had asked of me.
4. If someone comes to you broken, vulnerable, asking for prayer....lift them up, encourage them, and comfort them with the comfort you yourself have received from God. That is a Holy moment....handle with care.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.